STARTING OVER AND WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE

For starters, it looks like where you can be a blessing, where you can add support. Where you can be yourself without feeling out of your depth, or in it for co-dependancy reasons instead of overflow as a servant hearted son. Romantic relationships involve sacrificial commitment and your attitude and capacity that’s been forged in the fire too.

Many are looking for a quick fix, an illusion of someone being the answer to loneliness, etc when contentment is only truly found in intimacy with your heavenly father on the run. If you want to be in a relationship with an itinerant minister, you have to either come to the table with the funding willing to live out of a bag or accept a life of travel if you stay home! Family commitment involves mundane, unsung, discipline day in and day out. The commitment to seeing each child raised is a 20+ year process in this day and age. Many grandparents are raising adopted grandchildren and many of these hearts are doing it solo!

Family life is messy as it is beautiful. It is joyful as it is grief. It’s mentally gruelling, physically taxing and then there’s the bills that keep coming!

I’ve experienced allot of people sitting in the ‘pews of life’ looking for a partner but looking and longing for the wrong one!

Some tips to consider are- what am I bringing to the table in skills, attitude? What is my capacity to manage and handle stress? Am I willing to plug in with sacrifices when many days there isn’t much in it for me? Especially if there are children in the mix!

Many of us widow, divorced are raising young adult/ teenage/primary school children solo by choice! We value peace in our homes at all cost! We’ve given up sex, we’re not entertaining play boys or co-dependancy. We are high value women who are content although not settled! We’re willing to wait til our tribe is raised! Willing to wait with intention for the best to come, not late! Not given up in our hearts, prepared to look after ourselves, steward with an open heart!

There are many good men and good woman out there. If you have a disability, consider your local community group. Have you considered looking outside the four walls of your local church? Are you actively getting yourself partner ready? Willing to step up, shake off past failure, past defeat? Willing to adjust, grow, make changes, learn from mistakes? Are you actually marriage material? Let’s get real, it’s not for everyone!

We’re seeing lots of women and men on this page find true love! A work ethic. Willing to relocate. Done and doing the work, hard yards! It takes courage to be kind to yourself. To give yourself what you need to succeed. Some of you that’s coaching, courses, plugging in and investing into self. Join a gym? Get moving. Be willing to embrace new.

God has put those desires in your heart for a reason and he’s more than able to help you! You only need so much to live on so it’s not an excuse! Starting over is a process. It is a choice. It’s a decision one step at at time..

I’m praying for YOUR new beginning! Seeing lots of you launch into your new is a joy for me too! Do the work, un-embed fear based mindsets, illusions too! Get real about what you truly want, work hard for it, be willing to wait as you grow and move forward strategically too! Get rid of grief, false guilt, illusions and fantasy’s and false responsibility and you’ll find your match with God in it too!

You’re going to see your wildest dreams come true!

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