A word for someone on toxic relationships..
If you’re dealing with a person with a personality disorder, there’s nothing you can do to placate or change their behaviour. You can pray for them. Break arrows off their minds, but you can’t change the heart of what someone else chooses, and wants. A personality disorder cannot demonstrate good fruit in relationships because they CHOOSE to not embrace the truth. Living with a person with a personality disorder, there is absolutely nothing you can do to placate or change their behaviour.
Dealing with a person with a personality disorder because they CHOOSE to not embrace the TRUTH, they choose to not get real about issues, they choose to not be a team player, or be real and honest about their toxic behaviour, because their behaviour demonstrates what they want.
A person with a personality disorder is not a team player, they cannot behave in a way that produces good fruit relationally because a personality disorder cannot see clear. It’s a high mind that’s rooted in pride. It’s rooted in an ideal version of self and not the NEW nature of Christ through the legal transaction that took place at Calvary. Behaviour shows you who a person is and what they want. A person with a personality disorder is not a team player. They cannot put the best interests of others first.
They cannot behave in a way that produces good fruit. The way to live in your new nature identity that produces good fruit comes from tapping into the mind of Christ through the Holy Spirit and a heart that wants to do the work of un-embedding trauma, victimisation, and the lies of the enemy.
A personality disorder is like a tare in the wheat, they are highly selfish individuals who live for themselves. In local houses, circulating around, professing the right words, but behaviour that demonstrates friction, pain, chaos, confusion..
Fruit shows you who a person is and what they want. Chaos and destruction follows a personality disorder. Ultimately, they are sick people. The Bible is very clear on how to deal with sick people who CHOOSE to live in rebellion.
You can’t placate, pacify, appease a personality disorder, they are going to do what they want, when they want, how they want, causing chaos and destruction because they feed off this pain. Until they are held to account by a higher authority!
It’s not your place to fix, change or make them better.. too many local houses have folded, leaders have suffered mental breakdowns, physical sickness, because of tolerating behaviour from personality disorders.
A person with a personality disorder is not yielded to the Holy Spirit- they are walking by the flesh through a cerebral mind, a high mind, it’s rooted in pride and there’s no life. Fruit always proves where a person is at.
They need to be put out! Left to their own devices until they learn to yield and get real and WANT to change. Want to be a team player and demonstrate through time they are trustworthy and willing to grow and change.
Fruit proves where a person is at, with their behaviour, actions, tone.. Distance yourself from a personality disorder, they need to be put out until they get real, then when they do, they can come home to the Fathers house. A person with a personality disorder who’s influenced by demons, AKA a selfish person, let in close to you will utterly destroy your soul! It’s NOT your job to fix, change, or try and teach a personality disorder out of their repetitive choices that cause chaos and pain. Each is given FREE WILL and God will NEVER usurp what he’s freely given you to CHOOSE.
“As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful, he is self-condemned.”