Marriage is a sacred gift, it’s a privilege! We need to stop calculating years in marriage like a trophy of victory with an attitude of superiority! There are many in extremely dysfunctional marriages, yet stay for fear, or being codependent on one another in that dysfunction. There’s no growth, no real change, it’s just an easier option to stay in that dysfunction than get out and sort out their lives. There are many marriage situations in terrible pain. Many domestic suicide cases are rooted in fear and shame.
Others who are in healthy functional equal marriages without sexism have a glorious experience in marriage! This is truly wonderful! Through the ups and downs, through thick and thin, they’re successfully married with proper headship, role’s are defined and accepted according to each couples gifts, calling and talents and their marriages are successful decade in, decade out!
But for many others this is not the case. We need to be sensitive to the MANY who have tried for decades to make their dysfunctional marriages work- and they ended. Some were married to orphans, others to closet homosexuals, living a double life! Many are widowers and widows, through death, abandonment and other issues that came up…
So, when we celebrate marriage anniversaries, lets keep humble in celebrating as each situation is different. The covenant of marriage is not a trophy! It’s not held ABOVE the hearts of the individuals in those covenants- often broken day in day out because of pride, rebellion, selfishness and an attitude not willing to change.
Some of the most stable marriages I have seen have been where there is EQUALITY. Where there’s an attitude of truely wanting to be a TEAM. Where there’s a willingness to GROW and CHANGE.
These marriages are truly blessed! There’s always hope for a NEW DAY to those who have broken dreams and have cried out to GOD for his perfect will and not the world’s loose change!
